Dear Peeps

Some of you may or may not know that I have just had a "fall out" with someone who was very special to me

It all started over a misunderstanding and has snowballed out of control, and almost over night this person has gone from being someone I could confide it, to someone who will not even look me in the eye or even acknowledge my presence.

I know deep down in my heart that I should just let them go. If I am brutally honest with myself I know that there was never any future the relationship, and that the odds were stacked against us right from the start.

What upsets me more than anything is that this person has not even got the decency to tell me to my face that things are over. I always thought that they were compassionate...but that is not the way they are behaving.

So I need tips for breaking the ties that bind, chopping the psychic cords and releasing people.

I know that people come and go into our lives for a reason, but I am just finding it very hard to let go and not feel very very hurt by the situation.


Help appreciated

GS

Hi gracious star
my heart goes out to you i know how you feel when it happpenes to me i call upon archangel michael, this is the prayer
archangel michael, i call upon you now
please cut the cords of fear that are draining
my energy and vitality. thank you.
and you can add what is bothering you too, he is a good listener no matter what it is i do.
love light & hugs crystal

You have been here before Gracious Star
For you there is no easy way out of this
Me, I am different
When I let go all the hurt is sorted in a short space of time
I cut the strings then it is all done
This method is not available to you

You do know where I am if you want to talk

the hermit

Hi GS,

I have a great 'ritual' for this, which I have used in the past and will post up when time allows

Enjoy your day
Rae x

GS,

Rae started a number of threads on her discussion forum (web address in her signature above) on the subjects of acceptance, surrender and release. Just might be worth a look...

Change is difficult but what will come next? Exciting or what? Enjoy your break...



J.

Morning lovely, isn't it today?

Gs

My perspective on this (having very nearly lost someome last week- i really thought it was all over, so my emotions are still raw and my heart goes out to you.): Do not ignore your feelings be they anger, pain, withdrawal, dispair etc. these emotions are so very important and not to be cut off or cast aside in haste.

It may be useful to look at why you feel this way and what lesson you need to learn before cutting it all off.

I often find my solar plexus (as well as my heart) is ripped to shreds at time like this so may be some work here would be useful (lots of yellow things around you.)

I appreciate everyones circumstances are different and i do not know you but should you want to talk drop a pm.

All the best in this journey.

Sal

(rescue remedy is always a good one for those oh my goodness i do not want to feel this moments)

Hi GS

sorry you're going through such a hard time - this has happened to me in the past and the only way I can describe how I felt is "broken".

I guess only you will know the right time to break the ties but I'm with sal on this one too - the emotions are there for a reason - and although very painful, need to be felt and gone through.

However, as I said, you will know when you are ready. I think there are also some tips on tie breaking in one of doreen virtue's books (I read some a while ago) so I'm not sure which one.

also if you're a reiki person - you could try using the raku with visualisation?

take care

Hi GS

Ok, this is a really *powerful* ritual; so please make sure that you absolutely want to break this bond. Understand that breaking a bond simply means you let the negative stuff go and allow any positive things to remain. It does not mean that this person is going to literally disappear from your life (although in one instance it did to me; which, in hindsight, was the best thing).

The results I have had on a couple of occassions have been nothing short of miraculous, so there is the potential for a lot of emotional / spiritual even physical release when you do this - just be sweet to yourself, better still, just be............

First off, you do this part for a week on a daily basis. Do it at least once a day and more if you think about it during the day:

Take yourself to your sanctuary or sacred place (the one within, not the physical one - initially you are going to get yourself into a meditative state for this, but as the week progresses you will find it just spontaneously happens) and see yourself standing in one circle of a figure of 8 that is on the ground.
The figure of 8 can be made from anything you wish, but it has to be strong.
Ask the person you wish to bond break with to step into the other circle, facing you.
You are safe here. Behind you, just outside your circle is your higher self, and whomever else you choose - guides, angels, animals, whatever - anyone or thing who helps you to feel supported and loved.
The other person also has his / her higher self behind their cirlce and whomever else they choose.

When you are ready, begin to imagine a light or lazer beam in ice blue colour going round and round the figure of eight. It goes anti-clockwise around you.

Do this whenever you think about it during your day, for as long or as short as feels right to you. Even when you are totally conscious, you can help the energy of this by simply drawing the figure of eight again and again on a piece of paper.

If this resonates with you and you want to try it, let me know when you have done this for a week and I'll explain the next bit to you.
PM me with any questions........

Rae x

Hello Gracious Star,

We haven't spoken I dont think but I wanted to wish you all the best although I'm not sure I can add anything to whats already been written. Just wanted to say take care and look after number one, you will love yourself for it.

Love,
Sarah.

Hi GS

Diana Cooper does a CD with Archangel Michael cutting old cords if you feel you need someone else to take you there.

I read somewhere that when we are so sad looking at a closed door we fail to see the one that has just opened for us.

Ask the Angels to show the door that has just opened and remember that when something so sad happens it normaly means something way better is around the corner, - or through the door that has just opened.

and kisses

Sue

Hello Peeps


Thanks for all your messages of help and support

Things are a little better now as we seem to have got to the point where we can actually speak to one another!

I'm not saying that everything is 100%, but that is a start at least. I still may have to accept the fact that I may have to let this person go, but hopefully it will be done with love and understanding, rather than with tears and anger

So Rae, I will bear in mind your advice (and the advice of all you other peeps), and if and when the time is right, I will follow it

In the meantime...I am going to go with my emotions as Sulis and September have said...they are there for a reason, as indeed was the whole situation.

Hopefully we will both learn something out of this and be better people at the end of it all

GS

GS

I hope things work out. Use reiki to heal yourself and the situation.
If you feel the time is right to let this person go, then you should .
To do this with love is the best way, but not always the easiest. We have all learned something from your courage good luck.

love & light
JuniperSky

I've done it!!

I've chopped the chords and I am moving on

And boy oh boy do I feel better

GS

well done GS

Well done sweetie

Glad you're feeling better

Rae x

Well done GS

If you need any more help, you know where we are



J.

Good for you GS, glad you have found the strength to do it, it must have been one big almighty step for you.

Well Done GS

GS,

Good for you gal...now

ONWARDS and UPWARDS!!!

Yeaaahhhooooo




Any tips i can give my niece to make her see the light.

LOL Sulis.......me give Tips?


I should have done this months ago!! So I am not qualified to give tips I think

All I would say is that she should listen to her own inner voice. Mine has been saying for ages that this would not go anywhere long term, but I was scared to let go as it means I am now totally on my own

SCARY!!

But hey...I have you guys

GS

Gs
I have great admiration for you.

Sal

So have I
I still have a warm spot in the cave from the last visit GS

the hermit

Hey Hermie..........


Keep that warm space for me just in case!!

GS

GS

You will never be alone hun.

You have your Guides and Angels.....................and you have all of us!

Well done for taking the big fearful step!

You will find though that being on your tod for a while is the best way to learn about who you really are. I don't like the term "finding yourself", but at the times I've been alone I've been discovering bits about my inner nature that don't come out in company, and I've learnt a lot.

As Steve says - ONWARDS AND UPWARDS!

Love & Light
Lioness

Let it all go, GS, and enjoy your few days out

Go to the top of that hill and catch the sunset

J.